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Filter your "friends" lately? Eww, that sounded creepy ...
Published: 3/29/2010 4:27 PM
Last Modified: 3/29/2010 4:27 PM

I've heard it REALLY satisfies you. Easy to please much?

"You can never have too many friends." Who said that? Not Facebook, it seems.

I rarely "add" someone -- bad at both math and meeting people. But once every third month or something, I request a friendship with someone on Facebook. Actually, I did it last month, then again today, so maybe I'm coming out of my Magic Shell.

Whatever, I sent a friend request on FB to someone I've known peripherally since 1998. I added a slightly jovial little message -- you know, the whole "Hey! How are ya? Still having to take those shots?" blah-blah-blah thing. After pressing "send," I immediately got this message: "Sorry, this user already has too many friends." Oh, REAL-ly? Must be a rather chaotic Christmas-card season for her, then.

Seriously, have you ever gotten this message when adding someone on FB? The paranoid part of me is like, "Is she filtering me specifically?" Because I didn't realize there was a cap on the number of "friends" you have on this particular social-networking site. And, of course, the low-self-esteem part of me is like, "I've been rejected via Facebook. Again."

As I alluded to a second ago, I feel slightly creepy when I send a friend request to folks, even if I know them. Like I'm back in elementary school, wringing my fingers behind my back, gaze cast to my feet, asking someone, "Will you be my friend?" Not that I ever did that -- how sad. I'd send it via note with a box for "yes," "no" or "get back to me at recess."

On the other hand, I'm all about accepting friend requests from people -- unless it's like that girl a month or two ago from New Jersey. Didn't know her, we had no friends in common, and she was posed rather provocatively with, no joke, a sucker in her mouth. She obviously doesn't know me -- I am NOT a candy person. Were it a big ol' Snickers or a two-level box of Godiva truffles, I would've considered clicking "confirm." Otherwise, like the Tinker Toy-like jerk and accompanying rattle of my car, I opt for "ignore."

OK, I've totally lost my original point, assuming I may have actually had one. So I leave you with this somewhat unrelated thought: Please go out of your way to pay someone a kindness today, even if you don't know why. I mean, try to be sincere, and don't approach the woman with a muffin top and say, "LOVE your shirt!" Just smile -- and wait for someone else to cross your path.

Peace, love and confirmation ... XOXO

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tallgirle (3 years ago)

totally funny sweets

georgeious (3 years ago)

thank you sweetie. i knew i could add another reason to the ongoing "why i don't have a facebook page" list. it's hard enough for adults to be nice and make friends, ain't it? throw in an e-jection and we're toast.

Evie1105 (3 years ago)

i honestly had no idea that you could be denied because of someone having too many friends.

Arbythree (3 years ago)

Funny article.

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