By BILL SHERMAN Staff Writer on Jul 5, 2012, at 11:37 AM Updated on 7/05 at 11:37 AM
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Last week at St. John’s Medical Center I met my 12th grandchild, 90 minutes out of the womb. When I walked into the room and saw that little boy swaddled in blankets, his bright eyes squinting out at a new world, I felt such a rush of joy I couldn’t contain my laughter or my tears. Thankfully, only family members were there to witness the meltdown.
It was unexpected, but it shouldn’t have been. I’ve been there before.
I was in the delivery room when my first child was born. When that wrinkled face appeared, and began to squall, I was shocked. It suddenly dawned on me that this was a human being. I don’t know what I was expecting. I knew it wasn’t a giant watermelon swelling my wife’s midsection, but I was still unprepared for the reality.
And it was like that again when grandchild number 12 arrived. Surprise. Joy.
Each time I am surprised by the lavish outpouring of love that accompanies a new birth in the family. Where does it come from? Why is there such an instant attachment to a tiny human being I have just met and do not yet know?
I don’t know. And I suspect that if I did, some of the mystery, and some of the joy, would be diminished.
My wife handed the little bundle to me and I pondered his tiny face. Forgive me for reading too much into too little, but in his eyes I could see serene alertness, confidence in the goodness of life. As my wife said, he was perfect.
I know the crying and the diapers and the sleepless nights are ahead, but for this brief period of time, he was at peace with the world, and we were at peace with each other.
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