Amy provides her rules on dating with an age gap
BY Ask Amy
Thursday, March 08, 2012
3/08/12 at 3:01 AM
Dear Amy: I am an almost 30-year-old man, and I recently resigned from my job. On my last day at work, an 18-year-old co-worker cornered me and kissed me. She told me that she is very attracted to me and said if I wanted her, she'd be mine.
We worked very closely together for the past four months and had gotten quite close as friends. The attraction is mutual. I find her to be a charming and beautiful girl.
My concern is the age difference. I worry about how people will respond if we decide to enter into a relationship.
My friends are divided - some say that I need to follow my heart, and others say that I shouldn't even be thinking about dating an 18 year old.
Am I wrong for thinking about entering into a relationship with this girl? - Uncertain Suitor
Dear Uncertain: The red flags I see flying over this scenario are not only about the age difference between you two - but about her behavior.
If the genders were reversed in this situation, and it was an 18-year-old man who "cornered and kissed" a 30-year-old woman, I'd suggest that somebody might want to get the police involved.
Her behavior is so aggressive that you only need to imagine what she might do if you dated and then dropped her. (Picture her perched in a tree and yelling into a megaphone outside your apartment.)
Take all of this into consideration, and if you still want to dip your toe into this pool of crazy, I say you two are (presumably) adults.
Ask to see her driver's license to verify her birth date, double check the laws of consent in your state, make sure her father's not the angry type, shake the bushes for high school football player boyfriends, be prepared to have at least one conversation about Miley Cyrus, and go for it.
Dear Amy: You were very rude to "Bothered," who didn't want to attend a big destination wedding because the bride hadn't asked her to be in the wedding party.
She said she wouldn't know anyone there except other members of the wedding party. You have no idea how boring it is to be at a wedding where you don't know anyone. - Offended
Dear Offended: "Bothered" knew the bride and groom. Her husband and other friends were in the wedding party.
Bothered could also have extended herself and gotten to know other people at the wedding.
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