Resident wants to 'give back' to strip club
BY Ask Amy
Saturday, October 06, 2012
10/06/12 at 4:58 AM
Dear Amy: I live in a community that has one gentlemen's club. This club is an upscale, classy strip club with award-winning food.
This business really takes care of the local residents and members of the community - from contributing to schools to supporting food pantries. It is the only strip club that has been allowed to remain in our community, and that's because it's not your "normal" kind of club. It's really a cut above, and that's why we allow it to be here.
For instance, every year they offer free flu shots to seniors, accompanied by a free buffet (their menu is not cheap).
My husband and I would like to bring them something to show thanks, but we don't know what would be appropriate to convey to all employees how much we appreciate them.
They contribute so much! Any thoughts? - Grateful Residents
Dear Grateful: I'm going to leap right over any suggestion of tips slipped into G-strings and suggest that the "classiest" thing to do is to write a letter to the management, asking them to share it with their staff. In this letter you will thank them for hours of high-class enjoyment, award-winning food and contributions to the community.
This will prove to the establishment that they have successfully paid off the community and will encourage them to continue - which will in turn guarantee that they will continue to corner the market share of high-class entertainment in your town.
I know - I'm such a cynic.
Dear Amy: I agree with "Upset Reader" that you owe an apology to "Shocked," who asked a question about two women who wore white to a wedding. I shared the letter and your response with several people, and we all felt that she was merely asking a question and that the only thing that was "rude and unkind" was your response.
Why do you suppose so many people felt that way and yet you only defended your response? We all think you read something into her question that was not there and answered unkindly. - Still Wondering
Dear Still: What I responded to was a tone - but also a judgment by "Shocked" that two guests wearing white to a wedding constituted a crime so wrong as to be labeled "shocking" and "horrifying" and worthy of tableside gossip at the reception.
"Shocked" wanted me to agree that this fashion choice was wrong and possibly a deliberate attempt to upstage the bride. It seems to me that weddings should represent a joyful merging of different points of view, but so often these events are preceded by discord and followed by gossip.
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