Bride limits attendance by changing location of bachelorette party
BY AMY DICKINSON
Sunday, December 09, 2012
1/08/13 at 8:25 AM
Dear Amy: I told my friend that I would attend her bachelorette party after I was told that it would be held in a certain location - a location that I can drive to from my home. After I committed to going, she let us know that she is planning to change the location to a city that about 90 percent of attendees would have to fly to.
If she does choose the more expensive city, I won't be able to attend, and I know other bridesmaids are in the same boat. How can I politely express that I cannot afford the expensive city without totally hijacking her planning process? - Bashful Bridesmaid
Dear Bashful: Being a bridesmaid should not shackle you to bridal plans you cannot afford to commit to. The bride (or the maid of honor) has the duty to design her various celebrations so that they are in the realm of affordable for the majority of other participants.
Don't speak for or represent the other invitee's points of view. Be honest and be honest quickly. Tell her, "I can't afford to make the trip, but I know it's going to be great, I'm sure you'll have a blast, and I'll save up for the wedding!" If your inability to make it to the bachelorette celebration knocks you out of the bridal party, consider yourself spared.
You should try to have a bottle of bubbly delivered to your friend at her bachelorette party venue.
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