Candy sparks a little not-sweet office spat
BY AMY DICKINSON
Saturday, December 22, 2012
1/08/13 at 8:20 AM
Dear Amy: I am writing this for my wife, who is afraid of suffering repercussions at work. She works in a professional office with about 30 people. She likes her job, is well respected and gets along well with her colleagues.
One of my wife's co-workers insists on keeping a bowl full of chocolate candies in a common area located where my wife can see it while working at her desk. She passes by it every time she enters or leaves her office.
The temptation has proven too much for her, and she succumbs to eating an average of three pieces of candy a day. Her candy habit has proven detrimental to her ability to keep away excess pounds.
She has asked her colleague to move the candy bowl to another location or to bring in some healthier snacks, but he refused and told my wife that she should have enough self-control not to eat it.
She took her complaint to the office manager, but he refused to have the candy moved and told her that she needed to be less rigid.
My wife tried to get some of her colleagues to back her up, but they are all too afraid of the political repercussions of confronting the office manager. I love my wife, but I think this office candy situation is potentially detrimental to her health. - PO'd Husband
Dear Husband: The world does not owe your wife, or any of us, an environment scrubbed free of risk or temptations. Following bans on smoking, profanity, alcohol, allergens, sharp edges and hurt feelings in the workplace, your wife would now like her company to remove chocolate from her sight line lest she overindulge.
Your wife's manager could have easily "fixed" this by asking her co-worker to keep his candy stash in his own office, but, for whatever reason, this is not happening.
Now it is her job to accept this state of affairs, and if she cannot mitigate the bowl of chocolate with a bowl of apples placed next to it, then she should simply factor in those three pieces of chocolate and eat less at other times or exercise more.
In short, I'm suggesting that she accept reality and take responsibility for working around it.
Dear Amy: Early in the summer our family received a "Save the Date" card announcing the late December wedding of some friends. We were delighted. Now we have not received an actual invitation to the wedding. We know mutual friends who have. Should we assume we're not invited? Should we inquire about our invitation? - Baffled
Dear Baffled: Definitely inquire.
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