Is posting friend's photo on Facebook a double standard?
BY AMY DICKINSON
Monday, January 28, 2013
1/28/13 at 4:00 AM
Dear Amy: Over the weekend, I uploaded photos from my recent wedding to Facebook so that our guests could enjoy them (we own the digital rights). All of these images are simple, pleasant shots of guests sitting at their tables - nothing embarrassing or inappropriate.
A short time after I posted them, a friend sent me a private message on Facebook requesting that I remove a picture of her and her husband sitting at their table. She said she preferred not to have her photograph on the Internet for others to see. I respect that some people don't want to risk strangers seeing their picture and took it down.
After I took it down, it suddenly struck me as odd that this friend would communicate this with me via Facebook. I thought it was surprising that someone so cautious about the Internet would even have a Facebook account.
Out of curiosity, I clicked on her page. I didn't see any content. The only thing there was her profile picture - of her three children smiling for the camera!
I find it shocking that someone so opposed to having her own picture on the Internet would purposefully post pictures of her children instead!
What do you think about this? - Baffled Bride
Dear Baffled: I think you are choosing to be shocked about something that is not at all shocking.
If your friend doesn't want her photo posted on Facebook, so what? Why do you care?
Maybe she is getting jowly or doesn't like her haircut. Maybe she is an international jewel thief. If she doesn't mind having her kids' photo on Facebook - again, so what?
You seem determined to brand this friend a hypocrite and catch her in some sort of double standard. You were accommodating to her (well done!), and now you need to move on.
Dear Amy: Last year I went on a five-day vacation with a friend and my son. The friend had "just" met someone new. She proceeded to call, text and email the new person throughout the five days.
At the end of the five days, I mentioned that I thought it was rude. She said that she and all her other friends didn't think so. All my friends agreed with me.
I'm curious to know what you think. - A Reader
Dear Reader: I also think it's rude.
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